DON’T DIE STUPID.

Do you know that a week after you die, it is very likely that your brothers and cousins will ask your wife and your children to pack out of your house? That means your daughter may end up selling “pure water” in the street to survive, while that your good-for-nothing brother is living in your house and driving your cars, and marrying extra wives or taking new chieftaincy titles?

This will happen because you were stupid when you were alive. You refused to empower your wife. You treated her as if she was a stranger. First, you refused to give her a proper marriage. You insisted only on traditional marriage. You refused to add her name to the landed properties you bought. None of your cars are in her name. Her name is not in the title to any property. And now you’re dead, cold dead and lying in the mortuary unable to help yourself. How can you expect to enter heaven. Stupid people are not allowed in heaven, you know?

So if you don’t want your daughter and your son hawking gala snack and peanuts in some Nigerian traffic, empower your wife today. It is very simple: add her name to all your properties. I mean ALL your properties

However bad you may think your wife is, at least you know she loves your children. If your wife “steals” your properties, she will do what every thief does – she will use the proceeds of the theft to feed her children, who are your children. If your wife “steals” your money, you know that money is going to end up your children’s pocket money or school fees. But guess what happens when your brother steals your money. It will end up in the purse of your brother’s girlfriend. And why else did you make all that money if not for your children?

The beginning of your downfall is that you failed to recognize your wife as your authentic next of kin and your treasurer and custodian of your wealth. Do you realize that if you allow your wife to keep your money, she will not allow you to squander your money? She is thinking of the children’s future. But if you hide your money from your wife, you’re likely to squander it on frivolity and politics in efforts to impress the wrong people.

Bottom line: the way you relate with your wife (I mean your one and only wife) will determine the quality of your life and how well you live. Those men who abuse their wives generally end up miserable and empty. So, my brothers, when I tell you to treat your wife as your equal and with respect, I’m telling you so in your own best interest. Men, yield to your wives. Let them lead the house, the way the Prime Minister leads the government. Try to be a figure head, the ceremonial head, while your wife is the principal administrator. Otherwise what happened in the screenshot here will happen to your wife and children the day you die.

Emeka Ugwuonye
Founder, DPA

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